Frustration

Have you ever backed someone up with great effort, just to find out in the end that person was essentially lying, and you come out looking like a fool for “taking their word for it”?

I’m sure your answer is yes. It’s common. Sometimes seems the only way to avoid getting into that position is to be completely 100% jaded all of the time. I think people who are that jaded…that untrusting…that suspicious…are not pleasant to be around. I like being pleasant to be around. I hope I am successful in that regard.

But unfortunately, it got me into a crummy situation again over the past couple of weeks. I backed someone up because I thought that person was being unfairly regarded. In the end, it turns out the others were right. I don’t think she intended to lie, but she ultimately had to in order to keep from having to get egg on her face and apologize. I think it got away from her.

I would hope that she would then turn to me…the one who trusted her, who backed her up, who treated her unwaveringly like a professional, and actively tried to help her out and work with her…and say “Oh god, I missed something. Holy crap I’m sorry. Let’s just get this done.”

Instead, she was short with me, wouldn’t look me in the eye, and gave me a somewhat aggressive silent treatment, seemingly in an effort to make me feel sorry for her, and feel that I perhaps had somehow wronged her.

I reacted by not reacting at all. Like absolutely nothing had happened…like nothing had changed. In hindsight, I think it may have creeped her out a little.

The result? Well, in the immediate future, it’s going to cost me a great deal of time, attention, and energy.

Am I getting dangerously close to that 100% jaded mark? I don’t think so, but it’s sure making me think. And I don’t think I’ll be stopping by just to say “hi” anytime soon.

xo
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